Dictionary.com gives us this definition of success:
- the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one's goals.
That's way too sterile for me. There is no injection of emotion, enthusiasm or inspiration. Certainly goal achievement plays a part. But as I pondered it, and experienced my own circumstances of what feeling successful feels like for me, I came up with the following.
There are obviously several factors at play with me being so introspective. My oldest, a daughter, having just turned twenty-five, married last year, and announcing the other day that she is…pregnant! Just last week, having achieved my 31st work anniversary with The Allied Group. And, in just a short number of weeks (if I get there) another milestone (speed limit) birthday. Events such as these invariably cause some excessive thinking.
So today, for me, considering all that…Success is;
Being authentic. The farther we stray from our core beliefs and values, the greater the self-inflicted stress and strife we invite into our lives.
"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde.
Being kind. It costs nothing. And should not be hard to do. You, me and everyone needs kindness from others during our lives. We should be equally willing to provide it to others when needed.
"Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always." Ian Maclaren
Being brave. There are so many fears, real and imaged, that prevent us from both achieving our dreams and helping others do the same. Choose faith over fear.
"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." Anais Nin
Being grateful. In all of our striving, we too often don't stop to appreciate all that we already have. Appreciation makes all that we have better. Depreciation makes it harder to ever find happiness.
"Learn to be thankful for what you already have, while you pursue all that you want." Jim Rohn
Doing your best. That doesn't always mean immediate results, but it does mean it gives you the best chance to create positive outcomes in the long run.
"Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later." Og Mandino
Doing these things will not keep us from getting older, stop the world from continuing to change rapidly, or guarantee that all of our goals and dreams will come to fruition. But, if every day we tried to; be authentic, be brave, be grateful, be kind and do our best, it seems to me that we all might feel a little bit more successful.
What do you think?